About 10 years ago I realized that sometimes, while making a minor decision, I would preemptively have an argument in my head with some imagined adversary questioning my judgement. I suddenly realized that I can just make a decision — good or bad — without having to justify it to a phantom. And on the very unlikely chance someone asks why I did it, I can just say “I dunno, felt good in the moment.” This change in emotional valence has made my daily life lighter. Like, a lot.
About 10 years ago I realized that sometimes, while making a minor decision, I would preemptively have an argument in my head with some imagined adversary questioning my judgement. I suddenly realized that I can just make a decision — good or bad — without having to justify it to a phantom. And on the very unlikely chance someone asks why I did it, I can just say “I dunno, felt good in the moment.” This change in emotional valence has made my daily life lighter. Like, a lot.
Interesting to hear what your inner drama focussed on. Glad you got past it too.